5 Romantic Gestures that don't cost a thing.
"At the heart of it, a woman wants to know that she can trust you to provide a secure, supportive and possibly interesting future; that you have the depth to stand by her, no matter her moods and shortcomings. She needs to know you are strong enough to be faithful and never stray, come what may." -Khalsa
Never stop telling her how beautiful she is, and how happy she makes you feel. Remind her often how stunning and witty you think she is. I just finished watching Kate & Leopold for the 100th time I am sure, and it inspired me to write a Romantic Blog for February, since it's the perfect month to show the love of your life, how much you love and care about them. Whether you are just starting a relationship, or you have been married (or partners) for a LONG time, these gestures will definitely spark up the romance. You're welcome! I hope you enjoy!
Treat her like you did when you first met her
1. COMPLIMENT HER
Offer compliments that are genuine and focus on qualities about her personality or Values that find intriguing. It’s important to offer compliments that are genuine and that focus not only on physical appearance but also qualities about her personality or values that you find interesting. In a society full of distractions, being an intent listener is actually a cherished quality.
2. CHERISH HER
When a woman stops feeling loved and cherished, a little part of her wilts each day. She wants to feel special. Take time to understand her in a way that breathes life into your relationship. This may be helping around the house so she doesn't feel alone in taking care of the household, or offering to help her with the kids, drawing her a candlelight bath to create a little oasis.
The smallest gestures get noticed. All it takes is some of your time and positive energy. (This is HUGE! When she sees you doing something with a good attitude, her heart will fill with joy!)
Fight FOR her, not against her. Never put her down, even in a joking manner. Be on her side.
3. LISTEN TO HER
Women want to simply feel heard. Psychologist Manjit Kaur Khalsa says, when women talk, it is not just to relay information. Women also use dialogue as a way to deepen intimacy.
"A woman feels emotionally supported when you listen. Women speak for many reasons such as to relieve stress, create intimacy, and form a bond."
When you are actively listening, you're showing them that you appreciate their presence and their thoughtfulness in your conversations. Stay focused, ready to engage in your thoughtful response but careful not to solve a problem you might see. Wait until she asks for your advice or input. And make sure not to interrupt until the moment calls for it.
4. SHOW HER AFFECTION
Her cup is almost always in need of filling! Women are natural nurturers & caregivers at heart and are constantly helping others. This includes not only her family and friends, but members in the community, or I kid you not, she is somehow trying to save children on the other side of the world from starving. She is constantly wanting to create the perfect space to help others grow, but this can cause stress & fatigue if she isn't almost forced (with compassion) to rest & take care of herself. Touch can be a powerful way to communicate affection and deepen the love in a relationship. Try holding hands during a walk in the park or a sharing a warm hug. Random touches on the shoulder or gentle brushes on the cheek will make her heart melt. When a woman can feel at ease and relaxed, she can open her heart fully to you. She wants you to make an authentic and sincere move. So make it!
5. LOOK AT HER
When you truly look at the one you love into their eyes, a deep connection is formed with deep trust and vulnerability that can bond you for life on a soulful level. Giving your full attention is one of the best gifts you can bestow upon the one you love. Studies have asserted that when couples engage in uninterrupted eye contact for at least two minutes they have “increased feelings of passionate love for each other” as well as increased likability. Which is always a good thing! So this Valentine's Day (& as much as you can throughout the year), surprise your loved one with precious gifts that don't cost a thing but your sincerity, your time, and your LOVE.